How did we know we were polyamorous?

In today’s episode, Mike and Elisa discuss how they realized they were Polyamorous. It wasn’t an immediate “a-ha” moment, but something figured out over time. Mike came to it through the theoretical side of things through reading books. Elisa figured it out through the practical- based on patterns she noticed from her lived experiences and feelings.

Specific topics include:

• Mike read psychology and dating books that outlined polyamory
• He also, heard other men’s experiences and stories of being polyamorous and felt like it was something that would make sense for him.
• Mike felt like he had to hold himself back whenever he met a woman he was really drawn to while he was in a relationship.
• So, if Polyamory was something Mike was interested in, why didn’t he suggest it to Elisa when they first started dating?
• Elisa walks through a few different scenarios in past relationships where she wished she had known about Polyamory. This lead her to realizing that she had a pattern of falling for more than one person at a time. Hind sight is 20/20!
• Elisa also talks about how she wished she had had a mentor of some kind who could have given her guidance around her love life and ethical non-monogamy.
• Elisa cheating was actually the perfect opportunity for Mike to suggest Polyamory, a relationship style that he had always wanted but hadn’t felt confident enough to pursue.
• Mike and Elisa truly believe they would have “found” polyamory eventually, even if Elisa hadn’t cheated.
• Mike and Elisa describe what they feel they have gained in their lives since embracing polyamory.

Elisa is excited to offer Peer Support Sessions! These sessions are for anyone who is discovering they may be Polyamorous and need some help and guidance navigating what they are experiencing. Or for someone who is already polyamorous and needs to talk to someone who also understands polyamorous relationship dynamics. If you want to schedule time for a Peer Support Session click here!

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