Poly+Amor=Us

Mike sets the record straight.

In Episode 9, Mike discusses why he wants to be polyamorous. Ultimately, he shares his side of the story on becoming polyamorous with guiding and probing questions from Elisa throughout the episode. Specific topics covered include:

• When did Mike first hear about polyamory and why did it interest him?
• What are common concerns friends and family members had when he first told them about being polyamorous?
• Why Mike wasn't "convinced" by Elisa to become polyamorous?
• The benefits of being openly expressive of your beliefs and desires and how not doing so can cause others to project their own beliefs onto you or create false narratives
• Elisa's parent's thoughts on polyamory and the "free love" scene when they were in their late 20s/early 30s

If you have any questions or would like to contact Mike and Elisa you can email them at Hello@PolyPlusAmor.com or message Elisa on Instagram. Her handle is @_Elisa.Janelle

Music provided by Scott Holmes Music

Why get married?

In Episode 8, Elisa and Mike tackle the common question of why get married if you're going to be non-monogamous. Specific topics covered include:

• What does commitment mean in a non-monogamous relationship?
• How do Elisa and Mike structure their polyamorous relationship?
• What are the non-emotional benefits to being married?
• What were Elisa and Mike feeling around the time they got married?
• Why did Elisa and Mike decide to have two "weddings"? 

If you have any questions or would like to contact Mike and Elisa you can email them at Hello@PolyPlusAmor.com or message Elisa on Instagram. Her handle is @_Elisa.Janelle

Music provided by Scott Holmes Music

Normalizing True Intentions + Honest Communication

In Episode 7, Elisa and Mike discuss their thoughts on how cheating has become normalized in American culture and why they believe being true to your intentions and honest with your communication should be the norm. Specific topics tackled include:

• How did Elisa and Mike first become introduced to the idea of cheating in their adolescent years and what were their first impressions?
• How do Elisa and Mike deal with having romantic feelings for other people while in a relationship?
• Ideas for bringing up the desire to be polyamorous or ethically non-monogamous while beginning a new relationship.
• The basic pros and cons of being polyamorous or ethically non-monogamous and opening a relationship that began monogamous.
• How Elisa and Mike are trying to help normalize honest communication, vulnerability, and monogamy/polyamory through this podcast.

If you have any questions or would like to contact Mike and Elisa you can email them at Hello@PolyPlusAmor.com or message Elisa on Instagram. Her handle is @_Elisa.Janelle

Music provided by Scott Holmes Music

Our First Live Chat!

Hey ya'll! We're excited to present our very first live chat! In this first of many monthly live chats to come, we fielded participant questions and comments as well as filled in some downtime by playing a little Q&A game. The bulk of the live chat consisted of a discussion on the following topics:

• How did we become polyamorous?
• Is Elisa bi-sexual?
• How have we and how do we want to manage our time amongst multiple partners?
• Do we date and/or play together?
• Do we use dating apps, and, if so, which ones?
• What's the difference between polygamy and polyamory?

Links to previous podcast episodes that were referenced can be found here:

• Episode 2: Our Story - Part 2
• Episode 4: Cheating
• Episode 5: Jealousy and Insecurities

The TV show referred to in the live chat about a couple opening up their relationship has now been remembered. It's called Wanderlust and it's available on Netflix.

If you have any questions or would like to contact Mike and Elisa you can email them at Hello@PolyPlusAmor.com or message Elisa on Instagram. Her handle is @_Elisa.Janelle

Jealousy + Insecurities

This week Mike and Elisa talk about how they dealt with jealousy and insecurities when the other started dating. Topics discussed include:

• Mike's struggles with insecurities as Elisa started dating for the first time
• How Mike worked through those insecurities
•  What happens if you fall in love with someone else?
• Boundaries and rules: how they changed as comfort levels shifted
• Communication, communication, communication!
• Mike's slow transition into feeling comfortable enough to date other women
• How Mike's first experience with another woman was heart opening for all of his relationships.
• Experiencing disappointment/heartbreak from dating, while simultaneously being in love.

REMINDER: Next week we will not have a recorded episode for you. Instead we are doing a LIVE STREAM! It will be Monday 3/8 at 7:00pm PT. Here is the link to attend:

https://www.podbean.com/lsw/y0gAUg1uYv?lsid=ePj50tVzixV

 

If you have any questions or would like to contact Mike and Elisa you can email them at Hello@PolyPlusAmor.com or message Elisa on Instagram. Her handle is @_Elisa.Janelle

 

Music provided by Scott Holmes Music

Cheating

Mike and Elisa detail their thoughts and feelings before, during, and after the cheating incident that was the catalyst to their eventual decision of becoming polyamorous. Topics include:

• Mike's perspective and side of the story
• What allowed Mike and Elisa to work through this difficult and transformative time period and stay together
• What comes after cheating?
• Elisa's gradual progression to understanding her desire to be polyamorous

If you have any questions or would like to contact Mike and Elisa you can email them at Hello@PolyPlusAmor.com or message Elisa on Instagram. Her handle is @_Elisa.Janelle

 

Music provided by Scott Holmes Music

Past Relationships

Mike and Elisa talk about past relationships. How they shaped them, how they've grown, what they've learned, and how they influenced their decision to become polyamorous.

 

If you have any questions or would like to contact Mike and Elisa you can email them at Hello@PolyPlusAmor.com or message Elisa on Instagram. Her handle is @_Elisa.Janelle

 

Music provided by Scott Holmes Music

Our Story - Part 2

In this episode Mike and Elisa finish telling the story of how they decided to become polyamorous. They discuss:

• Elisa cheating. What happened and how it affected their relationship
• How this prompted them to discuss the option of opening up their relationship and becoming polyamorous.
• What it was like dating people for the first time AFTER getting married
• A brief overview of how dating has gone so far
• Dating during a pandemic

If you have any questions or would like to contact Mike and Elisa you can email them at Hello@PolyPlusAmor.com or message Elisa on Instagram. Her handle is @_Elisa.Janelle

 

Music provided by Scott Holmes Music

Our Story - Part 1

Mike and Elisa introduce themselves and share their story, which includes:

• The basics: brief explanation of who they are and what they do
• Why they decided to create this podcast
• How they came up with the name
• How they met! 
• Their relationship early on

The conversation will continue next week, so stay tuned to hear exactly how they decided to open up their relationship.

If you have any questions or would like to contact Mike and Elisa you can email them at Hello@PolyPlusAmor.com or message Elisa on Instagram. Her handle is @_Elisa.Janelle

 

Music provided by Scott Holmes Music